Core Values and Practices

These are the core values & practices that help us honor and support everyone’s thriving:
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  • COMPASSION: Understanding that everyone – including you and me – are just trying to thrive (be happy), even when we act without awareness or skill, or out of pain that’s too much for us to hold
  • DIGNITY & RESPECT FOR OURSELVES & EACH OTHER, and acknowledging both our shared humanity and our healthy separateness. This includes both our extraordinary power and gifts, as well as our wounds and weaknesses.
  • AUTHENTICITY/TRANSPARENCY: being real human beings with each other; acknowledging our shared humanity
  • LIVING IN ALIGNMENT WITH OUR VALUES, including acknowledging when there’s a Gap between what we’re able to do and what we’re committed to, being responsible for the direct* impact our out-of-alignment words or actions have on others, and cultivating our ever-growing capacity to Be the person we most want to be and to Create what we most want to contribute in Life
  • ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR OWN WELL-BEING, including acknowledging that we are the ultimate author of our own lives and experience, and setting boundaries (making choices and taking actions) that support our thriving, especially in the face of “outside” circumstances or other’s choices that we don’t have direct control over, that diminish our well-being.  As adults we are never, ever without choice or power, no matter what’s happening.
  • DEEPENING OUR CAPACITY TO BE PRESENT AND AVAILABLE RIGHT NOW, including learning how to notice and experience our present-moment body sensations, feelings, thoughts, and impulses … without having to numb, avoid, change, or fix them, AND without getting overwhelmed or flooded
  • LIVING FROM WHAT’S MOST ALIVE IN US, in a way that aligns with our values and considers the direct* impact of our choices on others
  • CREATING, MODIFYING, RESTORING, & DISSOLVING AGREEMENTS IN WAYS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO EVERYONE’S THRIVING, because our agreements are there to serve us (not the other way around)
  • UNDERSTANDING DISCOMFORT, PAIN, & UPSETS AS GUIDES, INVITING US TOWARD GREATER THRIVING & HAPPINESS, including identifying and tending to the unmet needs that these announce
  • RECOGNIZING THAT OUR GREATEST PRESENT-MOMENT PAIN OFTEN COMES FROM WITHIN US, rather from the actions of people or the circumstances outside of us, and doing the inner work of honestly discovering what pain is ours (from our inner orphans’ “broken toes”) and what pain is arising directly from the actions of others (because of how our human nervous systems are wired).  NOTE: See “Accepting Responsibility,” above. While we may not be able to choose how our nervous system responds in the moment to what someone has said or done, we have choice about the meaning we give it, how we engage with it after it’s happened, and how we prepare ourselves to respond to it in the future.

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