Healthy Boundaries – The Path to THRIVING


“Mind-blowingly helpful.”

“I feel a lot more connected, a lot more peaceful,
a lot less depressed.”

“It was a life-changing class.”

“I learned to figure out what mattered to me.”

“Having [my] boundaries heard & respected was … a new experience.”

“[I did the course online and] I still stay connected with several people in the class.”



It’s our birthright to THRIVE, and it makes a HUGE difference to build the essential understanding and skills that empower us to create, restore, and sustain our Thriving Life and Thriving Relationships.

But, our mainstream world isn’t really set up to support our thriving.

What’s more, most of us were taught it was “selfish” to really consider our own well-being when someone asks us for something.


If you’re passionate about living a Thriving Life but are struggling more than you’d like with:

  • saying “yes” when you really want to say “no” — and then feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or even resentful later…
  • feeling too uncomfortable to tell someone what they’re doing doesn’t work for you … until you can’t stand it any more and you blow up about it  (EEK!)
  • repeatedly asking for what’s really important to you, to no avail .. and then finding yourself either nagging or exploding (or both)
  • working really hard to create what you dream of, but all too often ending up either disappointed, exhausted, or both


If you’re not sure why these keep happening (despite your best efforts), and want to finally get free of these patterns just in time for the holidays

… the Healthy Boundaries – Path to THRIVING Program is for you.


Setting healthy boundaries in ways that honor and support everyone’s thriving is a Core Skill
that’s essential for creating, restoring, and sustaining a Thriving Life and Thriving Relationships
(with ourselves as well as with others).


In this remarkable, life-changing program you will:Healthy Boundaries_video_screenshot_r

  • Discover Exactly What Healthy Boundaries Are, What Weakens And Strengthens Them, And Why Your Health and Your Life Really Do Depend On Developing Them
  • Find Out The 2 Feelings And 3 Questions That Can Empower You In Most Any Boundary Situation
  • Restore Your Connection With Your Inner Compass — so that every day you can identify and live from what’s truly valuable and important to you
  • Discover How To Recognize The “Choice Points” In Your Life — moments when it’s absolutely essential to set healthy boundaries (or pay a price you don’t want to pay)
  • Learn The #1 Sign That You’ve Entered The Boundary Danger Zone
  • Identify And Resolve The Hidden Life-Needs And Values That Are Blocking You From Getting What You Really Want
  • Transform Persistent Anxiety, Confusion, Anger, or Resentment Into Confidence, Clarity, Satisfaction, Connection — And Peace


By the third session, you’ll experience a distinct shift in your effectiveness in a specific area of your life that’s important to you.

By the end of the program, you’ll experience a sense of belonging, calm, freedom, and fulfillment that you might never have imagined possible … that is your BIRTHRIGHT. And you’ll know how to continue to build your power to thrive in all the other areas of your life.


Come join us for this extraordinary journey … and claim what really matters most to you.


Looking to learn, practice, or build Nonviolent/Compassionate Communication (NVC) skills?  Had any kind of concerns or difficulty with NVC in the past?   This Program supports you in developing a powerful, down-to-earth relationship with your feelings and needs, expanding your capacity to make life-connected observations and requests in your everyday life without any formulas or awkward language.  Suitable for NVC skeptics, beginners, experienced practitioners, and even NVC educators.



“Mind-blowingly helpful.
Learning how to have boundaries breaks down walls between you and others
so that you can have that connection. This class has been really beneficial for me.
I feel a lot more connected, a lot more peaceful, a lot less depressed.”
— R.B., Portland, OR

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“It was a life-changing class.
I’d heard about boundaries, I thought I was good at it, and I really wasn’t.
I had lost myself … over a lifetime of addictive relationships, and spent a lot of time
worrying what other people were doing, what they thought of me, I was always other-oriented.
I learned to figure out what mattered to me, my own core values and core needs.

…[P]racticing how to set a very specific boundary with a former partner was HUGE
and so empowering, and then … having the boundary heard and respected
was just such a new experience for me.

I still stay connected with several people in the class.”
— Becky H., Schenectady, NY

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I was surprised by how useful the class was. I didn’t think I needed so much help
with my own well-being and boundaries [but] I didn’t have a good understanding of
what boundaries were. [W]hen I realized how often … I was saying “yes” when
I really very fervently meant “no,” I realized that’s probably a pretty big boundary issue!

Taking the course gave me tools for looking inside of myself to get a feel for when I
wasn’t getting my own needs met, and I’ve been able to take these tools and skills with me.
It’s become second nature to notice what’s going on inside of my body, to notice things like
what stories I’m telling myself, and to notice the physiological effects when I’m shutting down
or wanting to avoid something, and [understand] what that’s telling me, and to
be able to make conscious choices about what to do, rather than just
fleeing, shutting down, or being accommodating.

I do feel it could benefit pretty much anyone to learn and apply those skills,
because when you realize that you matter, and you’re able to get your own needs met,
you can be a much more effective force in the world no matter what you’re doing.”
— Lori L., Washougal, WA, NVC Trainer and Professional Mediator

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We covered so much and it’s of such great value.
I’m starting to see why I haven’t spoken up for myself as much as would benefit me.
The daily practice of [asking myself] what would support my thriving —
that’s wonderful, another concept that you brought up that I’ve never heard anyone say before.”
— Karen B., Vancouver, WA

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“I’m SO glad I found this class, it’s just wonderful.
It opened this whole boundary thing up big time. I have some friends I’m hoping will take the class,
’cause we’re all dealing with boundaries. Go to Vika’s class, go, it’s a gift.”

— L.G., Salem, OR




This 7-Week Live, Interactive Program includes:

  • Online Video Conference on Zoom (see course dates below)
  • A fully human, authentic, warm, expert course facilitator
  • A caring group of safe, compassionate, resonant fellow-travelers
  • 7 interactive seminar sessions
  • 7 session audio recordings and handouts
  • Program discussion forum for deeper connection and exploration with other program participants
  • Practice buddy each week (deeply validating and transformational, plus community/connection-building!)
  • Support if you have to miss a session (session recording + review with your buddy)


  • TWO Thriving Fundamentals Interactive Video Program – Online Courses:  one for you, and one to gift to a friend or loved one ($250 value)
  • Powerful Resources to help you Manage and Dissolve Reactivity, Strengthen Your Boundaries, and Blossom Your Thriving, including:
    • 50% off a Coaching or Brainspotting Session (up to $105 value)
    • Brain Calming Tools & Practices – Online Course ($95 value)
    • Intro to Compassionate Noticing Mindfulness + a CN Mindfulness Practice Session (up to $75 value)
    • Intro to Presence Practice + a Presence Practice Session – choose from Portland or Online Video ($95 value)
  • TOTAL BONUS VALUE = up to $620


PLUS, enjoy these special discounts with your Regular Tuition (one discount per person):

  • Register with a Friend (at least one of you are NEW to Thriving Life) – $50 each
  • Past Thriving in the Woods Camping Retreat participant -$50
  • Past Amazing Relationships participant – $50
  • Current Compassionate Noticing or Presence Practice learning community member -$50
  • Past Coaching or Brainspotting Client – $50
  • Current Coaching or Brainspotting Client (last session or package purchase within 90 days) – $100
  • Past Healthy Boundaries or Power to Thrive participant – $150


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Vika Miller, MA



7 Sundays over 9 weeks, Nov 15-Jan 10 (no session Dec 6 or Jan 3)
11am-1:30pm Pacific / 2pm-4:30pm Eastern / 6pm-8:30pm London

(Next offering TBA)


Tuition Levels:

  • $395 Standard Tuition (see above for available special discounts!)
  • $545 Patron Contribution (help support our partial scholarship program)
  • $245  By special arrangement (students, COVID-19, and special circumstances; please apply here).  Check out the first session for only $15!
  • $145  By special arrangement (students, COVID-19, and special circumstances; please apply here).  Includes one Thriving Fundamentals Interactive Video Program, excludes other bonuses.  Check out the first session for only $15!
  • Payment plans are available, please propose what will work for you.
  • Need to exchange something besides just dollars? I’m glad explore an equitable exchange with the other forms of wealth and assets you have!  Please check out my Alternative Payment/Equitable Exchange options, and feel warmly welcome to submit a Mutual Support Proposal.



Special arrangement” participants can check out the first session for only $15 (applied to your tuition when you enroll).












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